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  • People at work say I’m “difficult” and “toxic.” Why? Because I don’t let others push me around and I stand up for my boundaries. That’s why I never get bonuses, and the bosses want me to quit. After...

    As an employer, if one person tells me a colleague is toxic I try to find out what transpired between the complainant and the person being complained... about. Sometimes, oil and water do not mix. But when several people have had bad experiences I have to look at what is the common denominator. Setting boundaries sounds like a good thing, but what does that mean? Are you refusing to help colleagues “cause it’s not really my job”? That’s a boundary by it doesn’t make friends and influence people. Your question is framed as though it’s all about them. Perhaps a bit of self reflection as to why “people “ perceive you this way is in order. Perhaps ask a colleague why people have this opinion of you. Be prepared for an answer you may not like. Know as I was told years ago, wherever you go you take yourself with you. It’s in you best interest to find out why you are perceived this way before the next job. more

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