My husband and parents don’t understand me. They ask how I could quit my job as a sous-chef and start working as a cook in a school cafeteria. But I think this job is more important. When kids enjoy...

Take the topic off the table with them and work where you want to. Iif you happy at work and can pay your bills you are better off than many, many... people. more

My husband and parents don’t understand me. They ask how I could quit my job as a sous-chef and start working as a cook in a school cafeteria. But I think this job is more important. When kids enjoy...

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My brother is seven years younger than me and still lives with our parents. He’s about to go to college, and my parents said I should cover his tuition in full. I’m willing to pay even half, but not...

There is not enough information here as to why your parents think it is your responsibility. However, he is their child, not yours. Your willingness... to contribute is admirable, but before you commit , run the numbers. Realistically what amount can you contribute and not put your self in financial jeopardy? Once you have that figured out, then your brother has his own math to do. Is he willing to work while in school? Is he able to take school loans? How much will your parents contribute? He can then decide if he can go or if he needs a gap year to work and save. Your parents decision to not fund him does not mean that the burden shifts to you. He is their child not yours. more

In our department, there’s a girl who gives all the newcomers “funny” nicknames. On my very first day at work, she said she would call me “Piggy Izya.” I immediately replied that I didn’t like it, but...

Keep a record for at least a week. Then take her aside and politely tell her that the next time it happens you are going to HR. "Culture" or not the... term is unprofessional, somewhat derogatory,. and possibly harassment. If it happens again after you have spoken to her, make good on your threat and walk to HR. You will look better in their eyes if you have tried to diffuse the situation in a professional manner before coming to them. more

I’ve noticed that someone keeps stealing my food from the office fridge - milk, yogurts, even fruit. I found out it’s one of the top managers. I don’t think he’s doing it on purpose, he’s a bit...

If you have been in the job for a while, you can probably judge the sort or person your boss is. If you think he is a reasonable person, have a... private conversation and tactfully mention that you bring your lunch to save money. Ask him to respect your actions and not take what is yours. If you think he's someone who will fly off the handle, then the suggestions of a lunch box with a cold pack or a mini fridge will probably be your best bet. Please avoid the suggestions to lace food with laxatives. You have no idea what medication use or conditions people around you are dealing with. If someone is harmed by the laxative, you would be liable. This situation calls for constructive correction, not retaliation. more

My dad is ashamed that I’m a housewife. He doesn’t understand that taking care of the family and two kids is a full-time job. My husband supports us, but my dad keeps arguing with me. He wants me to...

First and foremost you may be your father’s daughter but you are no longer his child. You’re a woman with a husband and children and your primary... allegiance, concerns and decisions are with them. This is not disrespect to your father it a reality of adulthood.
There is dignity is housework and child rearing. Do not let your father’s opinions rob you of that. However, life does throw curve balls. Were something to happen to your husband, how would you proceed. Do you have marketable skills to be able to get a job and support your children? Are there 529 accounts that would allow your children to go to college if your husband were not around? Could you get part time work at home work, like medical billing, when the kids are in school? Awful thought but if you had to divorce, how would you support yourself?
I would worry less about Dad’s opinion. Be proud of your choices, AND plan for what if’s. more

I'm an English teacher and I'm trying to give the kids as much as possible. I develop my own methods and tests to make it interesting and not boring for them. But someone filed a complaint about me to...

It has been said that no matter what one does, a third of people like it, a third don’t, and a third don’t care. If only one complaint was filed... you are miles ahead of the helicopter parent who doesn’t care if the child can think critically or do research and just want the “kid” to get an A or whatever the grading system is. Keep shaping minds that can think and create instead of hoping that AI has the answer. Consider perhaps finding a school to teach in where those skills are valued. I recently went to a graduation at a private school that astounded me. Bright young people, multi lingual, musical, critical thinkers. It gave me hope. We need teachers like you. more

i have applied for jobs that demand my professional qualifications, but I hardly get shortlisted. when I get shortlisted by chance, I do interviews very well to my expectations and still not take the...

Interviewing, more correctly being interviewed , is a skill that is separate from having the qualifications for the job. If your interviews are not... producing the results you are hoping for then you need to be honest with yourself that your interview “style” needs revision. Perhaps a coach is in order. It’s hard sometimes when we are sincere in our efforts to admit that what we have done may still require something different or more. Giving up is not the answer. Find someone who can be brutally honest about your interview style and teach you to improve it. more

Greetings, need your guidance. i have been at this job for 5 years but its alot of pressure whereby its too much work and less pay and there is no slight appreciation of work. i have not grown in any...

Wanting to quit sounds appropriate, but actually quitting without another job, unless you have a lot of savings is not wise. Start looking for... employment elsewhere. Consider perhaps taking evening or weekend classes to enhance your skill set. Find ways to manage your stress until your situation is resolved. more

I need some advice. I've been working in the banking system for 5 and a half years, in the CSRV department. But I feel like this job just isn't for me. I really want to draw and create beautiful...

I left a very successful 18 year career in tech. It took me two years to do so. I took on work that kept money flowing and slowly started building... my new career. I am running my own business which is still a lot of work. But.. I am ballet class two days a week and practice the piano several evenings a week. It doesn’t have to be an all or nothing life endangering transition. Leave that to the movies. Plan your transition and pay your bills. more