I recommend that you ignore all of the misogynists that are telling you to be more submissive to your boyfriend's wants and needs.

I was married for... ten years and that relationship ultimately failed because my husband was more concerned with planning for the future I'm very much rooted in the present moment, and thus more concerned with the quality of my experience as I'm having it. I felt that there was little sense in focusing on things out of my control such as planning for a future that had no promise of ever happening, and this difference in our perspectives was ultimately too great to reconcile.

There are plenty of fish in the sea that will share your perspective and be supportive of it, so don't waste your time with someone who doesn't think you're enough the way you are.  more

I suggest you need to make yourself well understood by the person you want to stay with in your life, sit down and talk about the issue, he will... understand who you are.... more

I believe you have not taken time to learn who your husband really is , most times when a man gives a lady too much peace she slambers into terms... like, my peace, he raped, am a slave, etc
Change make your peace to be our peace and get serious about taking good care of that man
He's not nagging, he's foreseeing the future more

I don't know how long you've been together with your boyfriend, but it sounds to me like he has no idea who you are or what makes you tick. It seems... he views you as a project, but you know who you are and what you want, so stick to your guns. more

You’ve clearly thought about what matters to you, and valuing a calm job and work-life balance is valid. The key is whether your income can support... you—alone or with children. If yes, your path is sustainable. If not, consider ways to boost security without sacrificing peace. As for your boyfriend, it’s worth asking: is he encouraging growth or pushing his own vision? He seems invested in your future, not relying on you, which is good. But if his pressure feels like judgment, that’s a red flag. A strong relationship supports your goals, not overrides them. If his push for promotions and overtime clashes with your values, resentment may build. Talk openly—share your vision, boundaries, and needs. If you can respect each other’s paths, great. If not, it’s okay to choose peace. Your happiness isn’t a luxury—it’s essential. The right partner will understand that.





You’ve clearly thought about what matters to you, and valuing a calm job and work-life balance is valid. The key is whethe more

If you’re wondering whether you should stay with your boyfriend, I think you already have part of your answer. What you’re really seeking now is... validation for how you feel.

Every relationship involves compromise, but the best ones are built on flexibility—where both people can adapt without losing who they are at their core. No one likes a partner who constantly nags; it’s unpleasant and, quite frankly, disrespectful. I don’t tolerate that in my relationship, and I can understand why you wouldn’t want it in yours either.

At the end of the day, I suspect you and your boyfriend may have different life plans and long-term visions. If you’re not ready to give up on the relationship, I recommend that you both work together to create a shared life plan—one that allows for each of your work-life integrations without forcing either of you to change who you are at your core.

Hope this helps! more

Consider the possibility that you have just been given a unique opportunity or window into the worldview and character of your boyfriend (positive or... negative) and your compatibility as a couple. As another responder has suggested, the debate may also provide an indication of where your future together might be headed.  more

I can’t give you advice on your relationship because at the end of the day, it’s your relationship—you’re the one who has to decide if this is one of... the hurdles that makes you two stronger or if it’s a deal breaker. What I can say is I was in a similar position. I am pretty ambitious. I was in a relationship with someone who wasn’t as ambitious as I was. I didn’t push him to go for promotions or anything, but when he expressed interest in pursuing different careers, I would push him to at least do the work to make moves towards those fields and he refused. Ultimately, complacency turned out to be a dealbreaker for me. The best thing I can tell you is this is something that warrants a real, deep conversation.  more

Just do your work. Ignore his words because it is your life and work. Imagine you follow his words and he doesn't end up marrying you

Discover your passion. Find a job or position that aligns with your passion and something you enjoy doing and you will never work a day in your life.... Life is too short, live it! more

Um I say that you ignore what he said and live your life how you want to

Just communicate with him that you will not so what he asks. This is who you are and to respect and support your position. If he doesn't then you... know what you have to do. more

That's going to be an issue in the long run. My husband does the opposite, doesn't want me to work but wants me to provide. I was already in the... ladder, got promotions and working my ass off to get what I want but he and his mom doesn't want the job I wanted. Do what you want and what makes you happy! If it's going to be an issue with him, I think it's time for him to find someone he can boss around.  more