We recently had a work party and I accidentally saw something I wasn’t supposed to. Today, they announced that this woman is getting a promotion, she will become the head of a new department. They’ve gathered subordinates for her from different departments, and I’m one of them.
But I can’t work with her. I don’t even know how to look at her now. And constantly interacting with her is going to be awful. I also don’t know how to explain why I don’t want to be in her department.
Could you please give me advice on what to do? Thank you.

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  • Victor Turner

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    I saw something at a party- at a former job - involving our CEO and I can never unsee it. I deleted the image in my mind and moved forward. That took... the pressure off of me and the CEO...it's call grace. Grace for the imperfect, those who do somethings that they regret bigtime. If you can go forward perhaps a new job is the right thing for you. But if in the future you do or say something you really regret I hope you cut yourself some slack. Sorry to hear about this complexity in your life. Best wishes more

  • Keep your cool, and meanwhile, quietly look for a new job.

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  • Mind your own business!! By being discrete about what you saw leaves you at the same level with said lady. What do you want on earth? If job then do... what you should do as your role is not to appraise your new head of department.  more

  • Just relax u are acting as a follower.moreover I think u have the qualities of a follower why then do u feel that way .clear all thought and get to... work
    .In all u have to pray
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  • We don't know what this woman's perceived offence was so our ability to advise you is limited. The may be a question here as to what behaviours fall... into the "personal" and "corporate" realms.

    Let's assume you saw her engaging in inappropriate behaviour with the husband of one of your colleagues. You may decide this is a matter of personal ethics morals and leave it at that for now at least.

    If, on the other hand, you witnessed something that ran contrary to stated corporate values and practices, or could have obvious negative implications for the reputation of the company, that's a different matter and you would need to consider your obligations to the company.

    At the very least, you have been given some insight into the character of this woman. As a result, you will no doubt be on the alert going forward as whether the perceived misbehaviour manifests in this woman's management of the department.

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  • You find yourself in a difficult spot. You now question the qualifications of the woman in question and thus cannot respect her. While you have... reason to believe that you are assuming that she got the job based on what occurred. Could it be that she earned it and then "thanked" them. Maybe you do know she is unqualified. If that is so, she won't last long at the company. Your decision is to keep mum, do your job properly making sure to get proper credit for a job well done OR find another company to work for.  more

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  • i think you just have to focus on your work and take it as something usual. because it's usual, it's you who is overacting on it

  • Take it like these things happen everyday and should not surprise you so much and make you loose focus

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  • You don't need to like someone, what brought you to the same place is the job so please put your personal feeling aside and do your work.

  • Be professional and look forward in delivering your target.

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  • Sorry for the typos and thanks for the grace.

  • I saw something at a party- at a former job - involving our CEO and I can never unsee it. I deleted the image in my mind and moved forward. That took... the pressure off of me and the CEO...it's call grace. Grace for the imperfect, those who do somethings that they regret bigtime. If you can go forward perhaps a new job is the right thing for you. But if in the future you do or say something you really regret I hope you cut yourself some slack. Sorry to hear about this complexity in your life. Best wishes more