So I’ve got this situation at work, it’s bad enough I’m thinking of quitting. I forgot my lunch at home a couple of times, and my mom brought it over for me. Now everyone at the office keeps joking that I’m a total “mama’s boy”.
Yeah, I live with my mom, big deal. But now everyone’s teasing me about it, even my boss. Honestly, I’m about ready to look for a new job. What should I do?

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  • Batie SHERIF

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    Just joke along with them. Human nature hates it when what they think hurts you is actually not. You can even arrange with your mom to bring you food... a couple of times more. Trust me, when they do this and you distance yourself from your mom, you would wish that you hadn't done that. Just don't let it get to you. Yes your mom love you. It's not your fault their mother doesn't. So don't make it yours.
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  • If your mom is willing, help her bake some cookies (enough for everyone) and bring them to you at work along with your lunch. I'll bet everyone... changes their tune very quickly and starts talking about how nice your mom is and admire you rather than kid you. You are lucky to have a job and a mom who loves you. Use it to your advantage. more

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  • While I'm not familiar with the culture of your workplace, I'll share a couple of thoughts for your consideration. There are a few things that will... serve to confirm the label that seemingly some of your coworkers have tagged you with or refute it and engender the respect you are seeking. If you demonstrate a pattern of dependence on your mother with regard to lunch delivery and other matters, it may interpreted as confirmation of the label by your co-workers.

    On the other hand, your approach to your life in general and approach to work-related matters will speak more clearly as to who you really are. For example, all things considered, do you present yourself as someone who is capable of managing his affairs? Are you courageous enough to speak up and take an independent stand on the basis of principle when appropriate (or are you a crowd follower)? Can you respectfully present and defend your point of view on matters of importance by applying logic and sound reasoning (or resort to insults and sulking)?

    How you handle yourself in these areas will confirm to colleagues and others whether you are in fact "your own man". See "If" by Rudyard Kipling read here by Sir Michael Cainehttps://www.youtube.com/watch?v=sqOgyNfHl1U
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  • Don't mind them or you get married

  • Thats work place harassment but if you want to be petty, give them some of their own medicine. "Im a mommas boy. Thats better than being a three... baby-daddy girl" and so on and so forth more

  • I would not quit just yet. At least wait until you have another job lined up. It is rough that your coworkers and even your boss are joking about... something that is not even a big deal. You do not deserve to feel uncomfortable at work over something harmless.

    If you are already thinking about leaving, start applying quietly and get something else secured first. Once you have that new job locked in, that is the time to speak to upper staff or HR about how the teasing and unprofessional behavior affected you. That way you protect yourself, you still speak up, and you do not risk your income while doing it.

    You are not wrong for feeling the way you do. The environment sounds disrespectful. Just move smart and protect your next steps.
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  • Just go along with it and know that you're blessed to have a caring mom. If you go to HR and make waves they'll probably resent you, especially if... they feel like they're just kidding around with you. Learn to take a joke. Maybe they're teasing you because they actually like you and think you're a good guy that can take a joke. Life's hard and sometimes you need to let the small things go because it's not worth the headache. If you really can't stand it go to HR. Just know if you do you might not get teased anymore but you're going to make enemies.  more

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  • I am in agreement with Dr. Jean Simmons, make a complaint to HR. That way you will be covered.

  • HR with the employer is a great start. They need to know it's uncomfortable for you. They probably wish their mom's would bring them lunch. Lots... of young people live at home, so you are blessed. more

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  • The fact that you have a job is the important thing right now. How many people that live with their parents and can work actually do? In this... environment it is harder than ever to try and afford a home let alone pay for the other needs that are associated with owning a home. Congratulations to you for actually working.  more

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  • If you enjoy your job and want to continue working there, your actions need to correct but not alienate your colleagues. Personally, I would draft a... message to HR requesting a meeting with them, you and your boss. Explain at the meeting that you understand no harm is intended, but nonetheless, you find the name calling demeaning and harassing. Request that your boss inform the staff that petty nicknames will not be tolerated. Keep a record of of all transgressions after that meeting. If it doesn’t stop, let HR know, start looking, and find a labor lawyer or ask for settlement package to tide you over while looking for some more reasonable place to work.- more

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  • Joke along with everybody and they will eventually realize how blessed you are with a a caring mom. Unless if they are criticizing you negatively or... insulting you more

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  • If this is making you feel uncomfortable, especially if your boss is involved. You should go to whoever your boss reports to. Your boss has the... responsibility to maintain a safe work environment. If your boss is participating in making you feel uncomfortable, your coworkers see it as acceptable behavior. You need to go to your bosses supervisor or human resources involved, without any retribution. more

  • So what's the bad situation.

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  • Go to HR and let them know about the situation, if your boss is involved this could be an HR violation.

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  • Just joke along with them. Human nature hates it when what they think hurts you is actually not. You can even arrange with your mom to bring you food... a couple of times more. Trust me, when they do this and you distance yourself from your mom, you would wish that you hadn't done that. Just don't let it get to you. Yes your mom love you. It's not your fault their mother doesn't. So don't make it yours.
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  • I would talk to a couple of people and let them know that it makes you feel uncomfortable. They will tell other people that the comments made you feel... uncomfortable. Eventually, it will all stop. I would only do this if working there is important to you or you really enjoy working there. If overall your job is not that important there to you then find something else. more