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  • Hilary Stewart

    2d

    I just finished college and started working at a logistics company. My probation’s almost up and I really like it here. I also started dating this guy from another department. But lately, I’ve noticed...

    Even if it is not expressly prohibited to date someone within the company, DON'T DO IT! There are so many ways it can go wrong. What if your superior... had 'eyes' for your guy, and now you're dating him? If you are not just imagining the tension, I can basically guarantee that SOMEone in that office is upset by your relationship, and this can be for any number of reasons (jealousy, an ex?, he could be considered 'above' you despite being in a different dept, someone is simply is hard-set against workplace romances, to name a few). You haven't even finished your probation period. I STRONGLY recommend cooling your jets with the relationship at the very least until you've cleared the probation period and you put some time into a job that is firmly yours. You're playing with fire and you don't even really have the job, fully, yet. You can be dismissed for pretty much any reason during the probation period. And what happens when it goes bad? Talk about tension. Be smart and professional!
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  • Hilary Stewart

    2d

    A year and a half ago, I was actively focused on my career, but my mother and mother-in-law persuaded me to have a grandchild for them. They promised, they would help and that I’d be able to go back...

    I doubt you got it in writing that they would help with the kid(s) and you could return to work. I know that when you work so hard for a career and... things change, it can be an extremely difficult adjustment period, but you can do this. Key questions would be: 1- Can your family survive adequately with a single income household? 2- have you reminded the promisors of their promise? If so, what were their responses? 3- Did you (and your husband) even want children?

    Another person recommended adoption. Although I can't imagine that's a realistic suggestion, would it be possible to use the threat of adoption to get the grandparents to follow through with their promise?

    Either way, this is a very sticky and lose-lose, situation. Regardless of what you decide to do as a family, your relationship with the g-parents will never be the same. No trust. On top of that, two lives were brought into this world and they had no say in the matter. It's going to be a tough row to hoe no matter what.     more

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  • Hilary Stewart

    1w

    My dad is ashamed that I’m a housewife. He doesn’t understand that taking care of the family and two kids is a full-time job. My husband supports us, but my dad keeps arguing with me. He wants me to...

    You do have a job.

    You’re an Executive Household Manager.

    End of discussion.

    If you get a paying job, then you spend most, if not all, of your... paycheck on daycare. For what? So some stranger can ‘raise’ your children? So they can likely develop bad learned behaviors? So they can be exposed to more illnesses with greater frequency? On top of that, the parent child trust bond is broken or at least undermined .

    It’s important for him to understand that you’re doing the absolute best thing you can for your family. If he refuses to accept or understand this, you need to work on not letting his opinion matter.

    You are doing the MOST important job you can possibly do for your children and your family.

    You’re a grown woman with a family now. His opinion…although i understand you want his approval… NO LONGER MATTERS.
    Tough pill to swallow, but trust yourself and your husband’s decision. Be a proud EHM! You’re so lucky! Many can’t do what you’re doing 💗      more

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  • Hilary Stewart

    1w

    In our department, there’s a girl who gives all the newcomers “funny” nicknames. On my very first day at work, she said she would call me “Piggy Izya.” I immediately replied that I didn’t like it, but...

    This definitely constitutes a hostile work environment.

    First, start looking for another job, but I know that’s super difficult in the current state... of the job market.

    Second, create a Google drive work diary IMMEDIATELY, that lives on the cloud that you can access from any device. Document every instance of this behavior, every attempt to mitigate, including times, dates and even locations (if pertinent) of emails and/or conversations with the offender, manager and anyone else in the office.

    Keep a running log of the time impact that your diary/documentation is having on the business to maintain (tangible productivity impact to the business of her behavior).
    Keep all written correspondence with the offender and management in its own email folder.
    Go to HR, if the company has an HR department.
    File a complaint with your state’s Fair Employment Practices Agency You can search the EEOC’s website for the proper agency.
    File a dual complaint with the EEOC, if appropr
    Good luck!      more

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