In our department, there’s a girl who gives all the newcomers “funny” nicknames. On my very first day at work, she said she would call me “Piggy Izya.” I immediately replied that I didn’t like it, but the other employees and even the manager laughed at her antics. Now, whenever this girl sees me, she immediately says, “Oink!” I’m already fed up with it. I tried talking to the manager, but she just laughs.
Please advise me on what to do next. It doesn’t feel normal to work like this.
Thank you!

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  • Djadji Sylla-Samassa

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    Give her a nick name. Like Coward Cow. Every time she says oink to you, respond Mooo. Every time you see her, address her with mooo

  • You should meet with your HR department.. This is considered a form harassment . You
    should notify her that you do not want to be called this name and... that she should stop immediately. more

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  • Very inappropriate behavior. It shouldn't be allowed. In the usa should be taken seriously. People today have unpredictable behavior including... violence. Not used to toxicity.  more

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  • Meet her alone in the parking lot after work. Tell her you don't like it and it needs to stop. Don't threaten her in any way. She will get the... message.  more

  • Keep a record for at least a week. Then take her aside and politely tell her that the next time it happens you are going to HR. "Culture" or not the... term is unprofessional, somewhat derogatory,. and possibly harassment. If it happens again after you have spoken to her, make good on your threat and walk to HR. You will look better in their eyes if you have tried to diffuse the situation in a professional manner before coming to them. more

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  • This definitely constitutes a hostile work environment.

    First, start looking for another job, but I know that’s super difficult in the current state... of the job market.

    Second, create a Google drive work diary IMMEDIATELY, that lives on the cloud that you can access from any device. Document every instance of this behavior, every attempt to mitigate, including times, dates and even locations (if pertinent) of emails and/or conversations with the offender, manager and anyone else in the office.

    Keep a running log of the time impact that your diary/documentation is having on the business to maintain (tangible productivity impact to the business of her behavior).
    Keep all written correspondence with the offender and management in its own email folder.
    Go to HR, if the company has an HR department.
    File a complaint with your state’s Fair Employment Practices Agency You can search the EEOC’s website for the proper agency.
    File a dual complaint with the EEOC, if appropr
    Good luck!
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  • The workplace can be a kindergarten class for adults, unfortunately. Next time she needs you with/for an assignment or for assistance, ice... her....Actually, follow the others' sage advice, which is more diplomatic, regarding setting boundaries. more

  • inform her that she's harassing you, and that if she continues to do so you'll be speaking to HR about her behaviour

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  • Miss "aren't-I-funny" is out of bounds. Many companies have articulated their vision, core values and corporate practices and published them for all... the world to see. Essentially the company is saying to the world (and its employees), this is who we are and what we stand for as an organization. Take a look at the corporate values your employees claims to live by. Often one of them may be something along the lines of "treating our customers and our employees with dignity and respect." Or perhaps the values statement refers to "working collaboratively with team members.." When you take up your concern with this individual, your boss or HR, you can then demonstrate how the (derogatory) nicknaming is inconsistent with what the organization/department claims it is and falls short of one of the "respect" principle it claims to uphold.

    You cannot be faulted for simply requesting you be addressed civilly by your name.
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  • H.R.

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  • Seems it's that company's culture. There might be several other issues you need to learn there. If not comfortable, begin another journey of looking... for another job! more

  • Just ignore her/ attach your own version of a nickname 2 her too

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  • At this point this need to be documented, that you are not comfortable with the nickname and find it unprofessional. Ask them to stop immediately an... email and Bcc HR. If they dare to retaliate, you have a lawsuit. hopefully you'll have agreement on everyone's part. Best to you more

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  • The company is aware of it and I think that's why the manager seemed to be comfortable with it. I think you have to try your level best to adjust... hence environment is usually a determinant factor. more

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  • Give her a nick name. Like Coward Cow. Every time she says oink to you, respond Mooo. Every time you see her, address her with mooo

  • If it is something she does to everyone, it then has become a company culture, actually a way of collegiality and derolling. If you want to keep your... name and title and think what this girl is doing is offensive, please move out. Derolling is another way of easing the working environment as the person you are referring to seems to have little or no effect on your work performance or remunerations. more

  • HR, HR, HR!

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  • Or excessively embrace it. Be incredibly messy and only speak in LOUD oinks and squeals.

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  • Start looking for another job because whatever you do, all the other workers going to turn on you. That's going to cause a lot of stress on you. You... should have gone to HR.  more

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  • You have two possibilities: 1) Talk to HR, your manager and her, be polite but strong and ASSERTIVE, tell them you do not like nicknames nor have, in... any way, given her permission to give you one. It is not professional, and it makes you uncomfortable. 2) Find a horrible nickname for her, one that hurts!  more

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  • That's bullying and creates a toxic environment. Absolutely go to HR. Just make sure you document each time you spoke with your Manager and each... incident she called you the name.  more

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