At the end of the year our department head calculated our bonuses and based on that we received our annual bonus. I accidentally found out that my bonus was exactly half of what my colleagues...

No one here has advocated for blaming others for anyone's personal shortcomings, but rather, they have consistently urged the OP to ask questions to... better assess the situation to determine its fairness. It seems more likely that you're projecting your own personal shortcomings onto this situation, especially with the addition of this non sequitur diatribe about wokeness.
Also, equating my telling you to be choose kindness above being cruel to others as somehow being "woke", which I'm gathering is meant to be taken as a derogatory thing, and then closing with "GOD BLESS YOU" is just too much.
You're not fooling anyone into believing you're a good christian, and you need professional help.
So, right back at ya there sport.

I see that the Dunning-Kreuger effect is in full force up in this joint.  more

At the end of the year our department head calculated our bonuses and based on that we received our annual bonus. I accidentally found out that my bonus was exactly half of what my colleagues...

You Are Looking At This From A Perspective Of Pure Male Privilege, Not Objectively. First issue I have is that you should never tell someone not to... ask questions. You have no idea what their individual employment contract states for their tour of duty. I would however question your decision to post such a vitriolic reply to a legitimate concern. Too much time spent being cruel to others means that time is not doing what you should be doing, which is practicing kindness and building others up rather than tearing them down.
Maybe you are the reason you are not sufficient and as a so-called professional, being mean to others is petty and a sign of self-loathing. Just do your job, be a leader and be kind to others.
ps, my eyes are rolling so hard I'm levitating.  more

Hello! I worked as an economist in a small bank for 3.5 years. Now I’m moving to the same job in a big bank, and I’ll earn $50 more per month. I think it’s a better and more promising option. But my...

I'm with your family. Big corporations are never going to care about your work-life balance, respecting your autonomy as a human being, or any of the... stuff that might make the inevitable sacrifice worth it. *You* are ultimately the reason that you aren't advancing in your career working for the smaller bank. There is infinitely more learning to do at all times than we can possibly do inside of one lifetime, and I never get bored because of this fact!

I mean, if it's a miserable job for you, by all means get out of there and find a role somewhere you'll be happier because no one needs to obligate themselves to joyless work, or endure an abusive employer, or whatever other reason a person may have to feel dissatisfied in their job.

If you do end up jumping ship to the large bank though, just make sure to be honest with yourself about the things you will be forfeiting to work there, such as your autonomy, free time, coworkers who care, etc. more

Since I began my role as a Front Desk Officer, I’ve consistently strived to deliver exceptional service, earning the appreciation of my oprations manager and some supervisors, and they recommended me...

It's great that you feel so much concern for other people's feelings, but this is a situation where you really just need to worry about yourself and... your performance. The problem is likely that you're doing such a good job that those who haven't responded to this with resounding positivity and support, are only doing so because they feel insecure about their own underperformance, which your presence shines a spotlight on (at least, in their own minds it does).

You should change nothing and keep doing your thing, and when it comes time to accept a promotion, graciously accept it and then show them what it looks like when professionals are at work. You feel me, boss? more

Yesterday during an important meeting with some clients, I accidentally broke a glass and ended up spilling champagne on a couple of people. First, the director practically burned a hole through me...

If you are let go, it isn't going to for breaking a champagne glass. That incident was just an easy scapegoat that serves to ease everyone else's... anxiety about confronting whatever the real reason is.

I'm not saying that the real reason is any more valid than what you're attributing it to be, or pretending that I know anything at all about your coworkers or your relationships with them so as to understand the tone they seem to have taken with you.

It's just that human beings are notorious for this exact flavor of cop out in the face of conflict. Many will find it easier to blame an embarrassing champagne mishap than deliver critical feedback because that kind of honesty requires an uncomfortable degree of vulnerability that most people aren't able or willing to demonstrate in a work setting.

Anyway, sorry duder. That situation sounds really awful. But if you do end up getting fired in the near term, it's definitely not about the champagne.  more

Yesterday I went to an interview for a junior economist position. They offered me to work for a month or two for free like an internship, and then, if a vacancy opens up, they might hire me. Is this...

No respectable company will ask you to do free work. Hard pass on that BS. If they don't value you now, they never will.

I’m not an ambitious person, I just want a normal, calm job and I’m not chasing promotions. But my boyfriend keeps nagging me every day about why I don’t try to please the boss, don’t take overtime,...

No one is saying partners can't ask things of one another. However, when two people don't have complimentary value systems, they probably aren't... compatible for the long term and the OPs situation is likely one that qualifies there.

It's as simple as that, and probably not lost on you, so please stop distorting the issue. Big shocker, I know, but it's not about you.

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I’m not an ambitious person, I just want a normal, calm job and I’m not chasing promotions. But my boyfriend keeps nagging me every day about why I don’t try to please the boss, don’t take overtime,...

No Leo, that is not what I'm saying but I understand how it could be taken that way.

I’m not an ambitious person, I just want a normal, calm job and I’m not chasing promotions. But my boyfriend keeps nagging me every day about why I don’t try to please the boss, don’t take overtime,...

I recommend that you ignore all of the misogynists that are telling you to be more submissive to your boyfriend's wants and needs.

I was married for... ten years and that relationship ultimately failed because my husband was more concerned with planning for the future I'm very much rooted in the present moment, and thus more concerned with the quality of my experience as I'm having it. I felt that there was little sense in focusing on things out of my control such as planning for a future that had no promise of ever happening, and this difference in our perspectives was ultimately too great to reconcile.

There are plenty of fish in the sea that will share your perspective and be supportive of it, so don't waste your time with someone who doesn't think you're enough the way you are.  more

This question is probably for programmers - is it really possible to teach yourself programming or design? I’ve tried hard, but I still can’t seem to make good money. Could you recommend which...

What languages have you learned thus far? Are you trying to freelance or are you employed by a company? It's hard to know what to recommend without... knowing where your existing foundation lies.

I'm a self-taught programmer turned data analyst and 27+ years into my career, so I'm living proof that it's absolutely possible.

You mentioned design so I will assume you have some creative aptitude along side your development chops, and one thing I can say with certainty is that people will never stop wanting to see things wrapped up in a pretty package. No matter how skilled you are at something, the way you present it will often be the deciding factor, so make sure your portfolio looks sharp (and *definitely* make one of these if you haven't already!), and don't neglect to give your resume the same visual polish. You'll present as more mature and experienced with these things dialed in, and they'll do a lot of speaking for you too.  more