Since I began my role as a Front Desk Officer, I’ve consistently strived to deliver exceptional service, earning the appreciation of my oprations manager and some supervisors, and they recommended me...

It's great that you feel so much concern for other people's feelings, but this is a situation where you really just need to worry about yourself and... your performance. The problem is likely that you're doing such a good job that those who haven't responded to this with resounding positivity and support, are only doing so because they feel insecure about their own underperformance, which your presence shines a spotlight on (at least, in their own minds it does).

You should change nothing and keep doing your thing, and when it comes time to accept a promotion, graciously accept it and then show them what it looks like when professionals are at work. You feel me, boss? more

Yesterday during an important meeting with some clients, I accidentally broke a glass and ended up spilling champagne on a couple of people. First, the director practically burned a hole through me...

If you are let go, it isn't going to for breaking a champagne glass. That incident was just an easy scapegoat that serves to ease everyone else's... anxiety about confronting whatever the real reason is.

I'm not saying that the real reason is any more valid than what you're attributing it to be, or pretending that I know anything at all about your coworkers or your relationships with them so as to understand the tone they seem to have taken with you.

It's just that human beings are notorious for this exact flavor of cop out in the face of conflict. Many will find it easier to blame an embarrassing champagne mishap than deliver critical feedback because that kind of honesty requires an uncomfortable degree of vulnerability that most people aren't able or willing to demonstrate in a work setting.

Anyway, sorry duder. That situation sounds really awful. But if you do end up getting fired in the near term, it's definitely not about the champagne.  more

Yesterday I went to an interview for a junior economist position. They offered me to work for a month or two for free like an internship, and then, if a vacancy opens up, they might hire me. Is this...

No respectable company will ask you to do free work. Hard pass on that BS. If they don't value you now, they never will.

I’m not an ambitious person, I just want a normal, calm job and I’m not chasing promotions. But my boyfriend keeps nagging me every day about why I don’t try to please the boss, don’t take overtime,...

No one is saying partners can't ask things of one another. However, when two people don't have complimentary value systems, they probably aren't... compatible for the long term and the OPs situation is likely one that qualifies there.

It's as simple as that, and probably not lost on you, so please stop distorting the issue. Big shocker, I know, but it's not about you.

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I’m not an ambitious person, I just want a normal, calm job and I’m not chasing promotions. But my boyfriend keeps nagging me every day about why I don’t try to please the boss, don’t take overtime,...

No Leo, that is not what I'm saying but I understand how it could be taken that way.

I’m not an ambitious person, I just want a normal, calm job and I’m not chasing promotions. But my boyfriend keeps nagging me every day about why I don’t try to please the boss, don’t take overtime,...

I recommend that you ignore all of the misogynists that are telling you to be more submissive to your boyfriend's wants and needs.

I was married for... ten years and that relationship ultimately failed because my husband was more concerned with planning for the future I'm very much rooted in the present moment, and thus more concerned with the quality of my experience as I'm having it. I felt that there was little sense in focusing on things out of my control such as planning for a future that had no promise of ever happening, and this difference in our perspectives was ultimately too great to reconcile.

There are plenty of fish in the sea that will share your perspective and be supportive of it, so don't waste your time with someone who doesn't think you're enough the way you are.  more

This question is probably for programmers - is it really possible to teach yourself programming or design? I’ve tried hard, but I still can’t seem to make good money. Could you recommend which...

What languages have you learned thus far? Are you trying to freelance or are you employed by a company? It's hard to know what to recommend without... knowing where your existing foundation lies.

I'm a self-taught programmer turned data analyst and 27+ years into my career, so I'm living proof that it's absolutely possible.

You mentioned design so I will assume you have some creative aptitude along side your development chops, and one thing I can say with certainty is that people will never stop wanting to see things wrapped up in a pretty package. No matter how skilled you are at something, the way you present it will often be the deciding factor, so make sure your portfolio looks sharp (and *definitely* make one of these if you haven't already!), and don't neglect to give your resume the same visual polish. You'll present as more mature and experienced with these things dialed in, and they'll do a lot of speaking for you too.  more