I was really happy when I got the job. But later I found out they were choosing between me and my boss’s niece. Since then, my boss has been very cold and mean to me. She clearly doesn’t like me and keeps trying to make me look bad.
It doesn’t feel like a normal job, it feels like I’m just trying to survive every day.
I don’t know what to do. Should I try to be friendly with her or should I look for a new job? Thanks for any advice.

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  • Hang in there as you look elsewhere.

  • Really you are at risk, while serving be trying other opportunity because at any time they allege anything wrong on your side to implicate you. So be... careful as you serve . I will not advice to immediately leave the job but pray God to open away for you  more

  • I feel like u shouldn't give her the attention she wants, focus on your goal which is landing the job.

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  • You need to mentally healthy to do your job, however I can see that you are not getting that from where you are working. I will suggest you find a new... job where you can have your peace of mind. Who knows maybe there is a bigger opportunity awaiting for you somewhere and remember this You do not belong to where you are used to, however you belong to where you think you belong. Read it over and you will understand. more

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  • You can do both. Develop a positive relationship to the extent you can while putting your job transition plan into action.

  • How you should respond depends on how valuable this position is to your career. If it's just a job, I recommend keeping it until you find something... else. If not, you may have to wait your boss out, at least until she realizes why you were hired instead of her niece. (Considering that she doesn't seem to have an issue with nepotism, this could take awhile.) more

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  • This is so factual. My thoughts exactly.

  • Look for another job

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  • LIterally your boss wants that you should not be competitive to him or he doesn't like that you are growing in his/her niece place....So ttalk to him... openly with your boss stating that you were hired based on certain factors and his/her niece may not have that. Also tell your boss that the need of your job there and dependency on boss for your carrer growth....wath him/her advice and follow him/her with some distance and have backup always.
    Watch her/him for 3 months and take that as a challenge and succeed
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  • Hello Team,
    I casually applied for a role in a Company that stated clearly it is not recruiting anytime soon. However, less than 24 hr I got a... response from their HR showing interest to proceed with my application highlighting that I would have to go throug 3 stages the first, which will be an initial call with the hiring manager. I responded with a date but they later opted for a virtual call instead. Meanwhile, a call which was supposed to prepare candidate's mind regarding the job description and expectations, turned out to be a more or less full fledged interview and wihtout sounding immodest, I knew did excellently well. Questions like how soon can you report for work if I'm eventually selected, how much is my salary expectations? were being asked and the HR said I will be contacted. However, this a job I later learnt, was once advertised on LinkedIn and over a 100 people applied. Now, my question is ,what can one make out of all this? It's an International Company. more

  • That sounds like a really tough situation. Since your boss’s behavior is tied to personal bias, it may not change no matter how friendly you try to... be. My advice is to keep everything professional—document your work, track your achievements, and avoid getting pulled into drama. This protects you if anything escalates.

    At the same time, start looking at other opportunities where you can thrive without having to walk on eggshells. Even if you don’t leave right away, having options will give you confidence and peace of mind.

    You deserve to be in a role where your effort is valued and you can actually grow, not just survive.
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