At a job interview the very first question they asked me after introductions was whether I have children. I said “yes, two” and the interview ended right away. The HR person immediately told me that I wasn’t suitable for them.
I’m shocked, because my kids go to kindergarten and my mom helps take care of them when they’re sick. But I didn’t even get the chance to explain that.
Is it normal to treat parents this way? Or are they promoting a child-free policy?

  • Richard Choate

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    That is an incredibly illegal question. They can only ask that question “after” you’ve been given the job. Anyone asks you again in an interview if... your married or have children you are in your rights to say, “I don’t have to answer that question.” I think you dodged a bullet with that organization. more

  • Not allowed to ask. If you say yes. Accommodations? If it's traveling involved you shouldn't apply. I had my parents help. My boss Accommodated. I was... the last to travel. If chosen I said I would be gone 2 to 3 business days so it's truly beneficial. I could have just gone to see a person. That made no business sense. Mutually beneficial.  more

  • I am sure, they didn't ask for the number right!

  • The question is considered illegal in many countries. Familial status is a protected class IAW US discrimination laws. So you cannot use a person's... familial status to pre-determine their level of commitment or performance.  more

  • That question is not bad thought it sound strange, for its meant to determine your level of responsibilities and your flexibility in regard to... management, however it depends on the project requirement and like any interviews its only leads to deeper understanding of the candidate not an end to itself, I believed that interviews was a casual interview. more

  • That sounds like a really frustrating experience. In many places, asking about children during an interview is considered inappropriate because it can... lead to discrimination against parents. Ideally, employers should focus on skills and job requirements rather than family status. It’s unusual for an interview to end immediately after a question about children. Most hiring processes focus on qualifications and availability rather than family status. If that was the reason for the decision, it could raise concerns about fairness in hiring. Having children doesn’t automatically affect someone’s ability to do their job, and many companies successfully employ working parents. It might just mean that the organisation wasn’t the right fit, but hopefully you’ll find one that values your skills and experience.


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  • surely that is simple qwestion ,every respons must be consider

  • Wow, there is nothing wrong with this question as sometimes employers want to determine your other commitments, and to better understand who you are... outside of the work front, but having children does not take away your ability to do your job. I was once asked this question and as I was answering I slipped in there how managing my kids has enhanced my ability to negotiate situations, deal with conflict and has enhanced my ability to think on my feet as children keep you on your toes. I elaborated that I have excelled as an HR practitioner because of how well I balance my work-home lifestyle. At times one need to answer strategically when employers sneak in a below the belt question as having children does not hinder how you do your work as well as does not measure your passion and commitment. I started of my answer with, oh wow what a question, I have been blessed with 3 kids and because of them I am a passionate HR practitioner as I ........... more

  • That is an incredibly illegal question. They can only ask that question “after” you’ve been given the job. Anyone asks you again in an interview if... your married or have children you are in your rights to say, “I don’t have to answer that question.” I think you dodged a bullet with that organization. more

  • That is an incredibly illegal question. They can only ask that question “after” you’ve been given the job. Anyone asks you again in an interview if... your married or have children you are in your rights to say, “I don’t have to answer that question.” I think you dodged a bullet with that organization. more