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Career development 2mo

Hi there, im new to here but i thought this might be the best place to ask about this. My manager is two faced, she talks to me about other people and she talks to others about me. I'm doing the job of the assistant and not getting recognized for doing it and it makes me angry. She has said in the past that she would talk to her bosses to see what she can do and now when I bring it up she argues with me as though she never said she'd help me. My skill set as it is doesn't allow me to leave (trust me I've been looking). Any help would be great. Thanks

  • John Orimba

    2mo

    Trust yourself and perform the tasks before you to the best of your ability. Don't confront the boss because after all he holds your life there. Just... be calm as you listen to his gossips, never take any action, in a little while he will retreat and leave you alone.  more

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  • Lisa Serradilla

    2mo

    unpack the issues here.
    1 - Politely and tactfully tell her that you do not wish to talk about other people. Do not agree or disagree with what she... has to say about others, simply do not engage. "I don't like to talk about others" or whatver your response is should be repeated every time she brings it up.

    2 - What recognition are you looking for as the assistance. If you are waiting for praise give it up. She's not that person. What can you do to get recognition that does not come from her.
    3 - she's not going to help, so instead of being angry help yourself. Find a free or low cost class om something that will build more skills. Make friends with someone in the office who will teach you something new.
    Your complaints may be valid but they won't change her. Focus on making yourself more marketable and learning new things. Your anger isn't going to change her.     more

  • Flavia Kalenzi

    2mo

    at work keep everything private.Most people at work are just colleagues who may never call your after you have left that job. focus on yourself, do... your work and go home to the people that care about you. if you are not appreciated now, then it may never happen. start looking for other opportunities while you work, keep hope and focus on what makes you happy
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  • Iris McCallister

    2mo

    I have been in this situation several times. Perhaps you can do a lateral transfer in the company. If not keep your eyes open for an opportunity to... raise your status. My experience has been that sooner or later, someone so viteral will slip and fall. I agree with the above reply. Work hard and be friendly to everyone. more

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  • Nahia Nana

    2mo

    she z testing u jxt endure

  • M. Teitelbaum

    2mo

    why am i here at all im not a woman
    #sorry

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  • Jack Beach

    2mo

    It is frustrating not to be treated with respect and honesty, especially when you are working hard and feel stuck with few alternatives. I’m sorry... you are experiencing that.
    While it may not change things overnight, here are a couple of ideas that might help you get a bit of control:
    • Start tracking your contributions in writing, especially anything that falls outside your role. It’ll help you to present your case for recognition or a raise.
    • Document your conversations. Especially when commitments are made and later denied.
    • Build allies where you can. Are there other professionals you trust? A second set of eyes on the situation can be valuable.
    You’re doing more than your job, and even if others aren’t acknowledging it yet, that effort does matter. You’re gaining skills and strength, and one day, they’ll open doors that this current situation can’t shut forever. Hang in there—and good luck.
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  • Erma Batch

    2mo

    First when your boss starts to talk about other people do not engage in the conversation. You can let people know without words you will not... participate in gossip. Secondly if there are other positions within the company apply if you qualify. Do not make a move too quickly you may regret it down the road, If you apply for a position you qualify for and do not get it then go to that manager and professionally ask when you did not get the position. This may open the door for conversation that is needed. Be patient more

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  • Cheryl Brooks

    2mo

    I could tell you stories about experiences like you're explaining but instead I will say that you can either wait it out because sooner or later will... either be promoted, fired or resign or retire. If you don't have the patience to deal with this person, it can cause you anxiety which isn't healthy for you. Move on to another department or continue looking for that new job. You never know, you could find that place that's better suited for you. No one should deal with that sort of situation, it's unfair.  more

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  • David Patton

    2mo

    Trust you can change any situation that you're in just don't give them the power to keep you still continue to put one foot in front of the other I... don't care if you're trying to walk through the state eventually you'll get there be patient and move with Grace and love more

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