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Ethan Cole


Career development 12h
I’m finishing college and going to lots of job interviews right now. I want to find a place where I’ll actually enjoy working. But my parents are trying to get me a job through their friends. I don’t want that, because I’ll feel like I owe them and their friends too. I want to achieve things on my own. Some people say I’m just being young and should accept the help. But I don’t feel comfortable with that.
What would you do in my situation? Thanks

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  • Sana Askari

    8h
    Best answer

    I will also graduate in a few weeks, and have only applied for two positions recently. Have not heard back yet, but I have been observing the job... market. The market does not seem ideal since we are competing with people who are laid off and fresh graduates. Maybe take the help for now, and make a transition later when you get some experience. more

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  • Julius Kamera

    10m

    Everyone was/is going to behealped by someone else on this planet. Some even demand a premium for that help and I dont think your parents can fit in... that bracket. And besides you already owe your parents big time, from birth all the way to tertiary, thats a lot. So whats wrong at this stage to get help from them? I dont see anything wrong. more

  • Adrienne Chisolm Cox

    24m

    Yikes this one is difficult. You think like me. I feel your concerns. I know that working for people you know may come with a whole other level of... expectations . It may be a positive or negative experience. However, realistically with the climate of the world that we live in today and unemployment numbers are rising, I suggest you take it. In life we often have to make sacrifices. Look for something you desire at a later time. Accepting this would allow you to establish some work history. Make sure you have good work ethics eventhough you know them. Wishing you well in your endeavors  more

  • Ian Michigan

    1h

    Personally,I would go look for a job rather than to work for family and friends for my peace.I do not want to be discussed by them.It doesn't command... respect because it's like you owe them  more

  • Solomon Lugalia

    1h

    Our parents wants the best for us and they can not mislead us. Accept the offer and who knows something good may come out of it. So as you scout on... your own which ever comes first go with it. Other wish you the best as you start a new chapter of your live and Congratulations in advance. more

  • Stephen Rukwaro

    3h

    If you take a parent referral with an attitude of feeling that you owe them, you will jeopardise the job. If you go to your own job feeling that... you've escaped owing anybody, you will jeopardise it as well.
    The attitude of facing a job is actually doing it to your best, whichever its source. The probable untold reason as to why your parents want to help you is that you're not at your best at starting off. If they believe you are they'd not even be bothered. How do you reconcile these competing interests? Do your trials, as your parents do theirs, whichever comes first go for it. Endeavour to do it at your best. The metric of performance is result, not who you owe. All the best.     more

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  • Sana Askari

    8h

    I will also graduate in a few weeks, and have only applied for two positions recently. Have not heard back yet, but I have been observing the job... market. The market does not seem ideal since we are competing with people who are laid off and fresh graduates. Maybe take the help for now, and make a transition later when you get some experience. more

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  • Ade Mola

    9h

    Accept the help. If your parents can help pls take it. Except if you have an option. In the absence of none. Pls take it or better still refer me.

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