Already that gifting as a group is wrong. A birthday gift should be optional and a personal statement from the giver, determined by the... relationship.
It is unethical to ask for a gift you can’t afford. more

Don't worry about what others think. If you are buying the gift, get what you would like for them to have and know you by. If the group does not like... your idea, you have the option to not contribute to the pot and make your own purchase. Don't let anyone deter you from allowing someone to enjoy what you put some thought and effort into. Let them do the pan thing. Do your thing. I would take the time to get to know that person, or just contribute and let the one who does the shopping shop. I would like to see the receipts to ensure my money was utilized wisely or just get something on my own. Or I would not worry about it, put in a few bucks and let them do what they do. You can be specific when your time comes around and let them know that you would prefer to not have pots or pans, but something a little bit more you (ie. artsy)

No you are not weird. You seem thoughtful. Not everyone wants to think outside the box.  more

What’s happening here isn’t about you being “weird.” It’s about different values. Some people lean toward practical gifts like toasters or pans, while... you chose something deeply meaningful and personal. That is a beautiful, perfectly reasonable way to use a group gift.
Choosing what truly speaks to you shows courage and authenticity—it takes strength to honor your own heart. In ten years, you’ll have your art book, a treasure that reflects your passions, while some of the noise around you may have faded. Focus on what brings you joy, not on what others think.
Respect others’ choices, too—everyone marches to their own rhythm. Not everyone can be a peony, and that’s what makes the world so vibrant. When your art book arrives, cherish it with gratitude. Your joy will shine, and everyone will see the light that comes from being authentically you. more