I’m in a difficult situation at work. We broke up with a guy from another department, we dated and even lived together for a year. Now it feels uncomfortable to see him at the office and in the kitchen. It’s also hard to deal with coworkers asking questions and showing sympathy about our breakup. I don’t want to change jobs, and I don’t have anywhere else to go.
How can I get coworkers to ask fewer questions and make work feel more comfortable? Thank you

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  • Kelvin Linyama

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    Having intimacy at work place,
    Is complete night mare.
    It loses respect, diginity and professionalism

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  • Sorry to hear about your breakup. Just ask for privacy during this time. This is why a lot of employers discourage dating between employees. For this... very reason and many others aside from this. In all honesty it might be best to change jobs at this point. more

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  • Let them know it’s a difficult or uncomfortable situation that you would like privacy to deal with.

  • “My Personal Life Is Private, Please Do Not Bring It Up Again”
    Let everyone that asks you get this response and it should quell the curiosity. Stick... to business as usual. Do not let it affect your work & soon it will be Passat! This is why you don’t waste where you eat! The world is not all puppies and unicorns, there are wolves in the forest as well. Personal life & work life do not mix! Thats was both of yours first mistake! Making it obvious at work was both of yours second mistake. Then think of everyone at the office now stressed and caught up in that drama of choosing sides when they should be focused on their respective jobs.  more

  • You can set a simple, respectful boundary. Whenever someone brings it up, just say: ‘I’d prefer not to discuss this, and I’d appreciate it if you... don’t bring it up.’ Most people will understand and stop asking. If you stay consistent, the questions should fade, and things will feel more normal over time. more

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  • Sorry for the breakup. Answer all their questions with no lies and eventually no more questions will pop up

  • Sorry for that!. However, it feels insecure on your side but it's easy to deal with the coworkers if they're making it difficult for you with... questions. First, accept the break up with your X and be open with whoever asks questions about it because some people need reality to settle their minds. I promise you'll be good to go more

  • Anytime someone asks you about your personal private business, just stare the intrusive party in the face, and let your facial expression speak for... you, give it about 30 seconds (or more if you need to), And if possible, simply walk away. Your business is just that, your business! more

  • Having intimacy at work place,
    Is complete night mare.
    It loses respect, diginity and professionalism

    2
  • Sweetheart, you might have too change jobs, I had the same thing happen years ago. On the same job.they already know the business and it won't stop.... Never entertain a relationship at work it always happens. People are more intrusive at work.  more