You're already doing well and your concerns are valid. Child birth and child rearing comes with diverse commitments and sacrifices. Are you likely to... enjoy maternity leave with salary and benefits from both organizations when the time comes? Will you be able to get permission from both jobs to visit the hospital for antenatal and post natal care when the time comes? These are questions you need to sit down and answer before making a decision. With a full time job, things are well structured and it's possible to visit the hospital and return to work with little or no disruption and you can return to work after maternity leave. Also, you will have stability and less stress juggling between jobs and having enough time to care for the baby and the family. Being a mother is a life time commitment. I wish you the best in making a decision. more

I am old fashioned and grew up feeling that man is the main bread winner of the family. In today’s world, lots of women make a lot more than men in... the family. The main thing to consider is to work up to your potential and to help each other achieve that.
By the way, when people love each other, they feel each other’s pain and look out for their partner. If love is present, you will soon resolve these issues. Good luck. more

I admire your efforts. Congratulations

It sounds like you're in a tough spot, juggling multiple roles and trying to balance your career and family plans. I can understand why you're feeling... conflicted. You're working hard already, and it’s clear you care deeply about your current situation, but your husband’s push for you to get a full-time office job adds a layer of pressure.

It’s also totally valid to feel that a man should take on more of the financial responsibility, especially if you're already doing more than enough. But I also understand that wanting to provide a good future for your baby is weighing on both of you, and it's natural to want stability for that.

Here are a few things to consider that might help clarify your thoughts:

1. **What’s the real motivation behind the full-time office job?**
Is it about financial stability or is it more about a sense of "security" from a traditional office job? If it’s strictly about money, maybe there’s a compromise or another way to increase savings without making a dra more

even though the money might be less. Is the trade-off worth it?

In the end, both of you will need to have a heart-to-heart to find a solution that... doesn’t feel like you’re sacrificing everything for something that might not be the right fit. You both want the same thing—a secure future for your baby—but there’s more than one way to get there.

How do you feel about all of this? Is there a part of your current situation that feels non-negotiable? more

maybe there’s a compromise or another way to increase savings without making a drastic change.

Can your husband share more of the household... load?
You’ve already taken on multiple roles, but maybe there’s room for him to take on more at home to lighten your burden. Perhaps a conversation about sharing household duties in a way that gives you more space to focus on your work-life balance could help.

Financial planning as a team
If saving for your baby’s future is the issue, maybe sit down together and map out a plan for budgeting. Could you tweak what you're already doing with your current job situation? A financial advisor or just setting clear savings goals together might reduce the pressure you feel about needing to shift your career.

What do you value most?
Is it your current job flexibility, or the possibility of better pay and benefits? Sometimes, the lifestyle you have right now offers more freedom than a higher-paying job, even though the money might be less. Is the trade-off  more

It sounds like you're in a tough spot, juggling multiple roles and trying to balance your career and family plans. I can understand why you're feeling... conflicted. You're working hard already, and it’s clear you care deeply about your current situation, but your husband’s push for you to get a full-time office job adds a layer of pressure.

It’s also totally valid to feel that a man should take on more of the financial responsibility, especially if you're already doing more than enough. But I also understand that wanting to provide a good future for your baby is weighing on both of you, and it's natural to want stability for that.

Here are a few things to consider that might help clarify your thoughts:

1. **What’s the real motivation behind the full-time office job?**
Is it about financial stability or is it more about a sense of "security" from a traditional office job? If it’s strictly about money, maybe there’s a compromise or another way to increase savings without making a dra more