Perception is personal and it's individual's opinion that doesn't make it a fact.
Don't give room to that critic it's when you accept it then it... becomes your reality. more

Perception is personal and it's individual's opinion that doesn't make it a fact.
Don't give room to that critic it's when you accept it then it... becomes your reality. more

Go to the competition get paid better they will hire stable work history

You are not a loser because you are still working at the same position and I wish you success to get a higher salary.so keep pushing.

Being in the same position for that time doesn't make you a looser. There are many reasons one can stay in one position. Satisfaction,lack of... opportunities,need for stability like when one is taking care of small children or a sick person,etc. Someone should not define you,it's you who knows who you are what you want and when. Another person's view of success has nothing to do with you. As for the HR,they are mean,a narcissist and should not be in that career. They probably has problems with themself. Putting others down just proofs that one has issues with themselves. You need to forgive her and look at her like a sick person.
However,at the right time,let the management know how she treated you.  more

To me you are not a loser but you are royal to your job.,Dont worry and keep goin

The HR person certainly is not a winner. Losers do not care as deeply as you do. The HR person should strive to be better at the job, and language in... that important role is paramount. Soldier on! more

That's the difference between Managers & Leaders and your HR (who ever it was?) is neither. Now what's not clear is the Interview? Was this for... another opportunity within the company? With people you already have a day to day relationship with or a new company altogether? I'm not worried about the loser comments because that would mean that there is more here than meets the eye which prompts me to escalate this situation to the C-level managers.

They should be aware of how their team members are being treated. Document everything and when you resign, your resignation letter should include a detailed accounting of what transpired. Then start looking for other opportunities.

​note: promotions, raises, bonuses are not really guaranteed. Too many variables in business to predict profitability as well as cost of doing business to justify pay outs other than dalary or hourly pay promises.  more

I'm currently in HR and we should never use that verbiage at all.

No,ur not a loser keep pushing time will tell. Certain comments are meant to discourage you but don't pay attention to such nay sayers. All the best

I don’t view myself as a loser. Over the past three and a half years, I have consistently delivered on my responsibilities, maintained performance,... and contributed to the company’s objectives. While my title has not changed, my experience, competence, and value have grown
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I don’t view myself as a loser. Over the past three and a half years, I have consistently delivered on my responsibilities, maintained performance,... and contributed to the company’s objectives. While my title has not changed, my experience, competence, and value have grown
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No, you are not a "loser" for staying in a role for 3.5 years.
In fact, staying in a position for three or more years is often seen by employers as a... sign of stability and commitment, showing that you can be relied upon to stick with a role rather than "job-hopping".
The interviewer's question was unprofessional and likely intended as a "stress test" or was simply a reflection of their own poor interviewing skills.

Why Staying for 3.5 Years is Normal
1. Skill Mastery: It often takes 2–3 years to deeply understand a role and make a meaningful contribution.
2. Professional Reliability: Many employers prefer candidates who stay long enough to return the investment made in their training.
3. Personal Goals: If you are satisfied with your work and it fits your life, there is no inherent requirement to change roles unless you choose to.

Looking for a salary raise?
Try getting a new more paying job in a different company with your expertise and experience once as an option.

Thank you. more

To the best of my knowledge, when you are given equipments it's clearly indicated in the system in your details Incase of anything you are... accountable. unless she also follows the procedures before changing it otherwise she is just trying to threaten you  more

I don't know what a loser looks like but... I do know the brain is wired to think first of all the things that could go wrong, think one is... incompetent the find reasons to support this so you don't feel bad when by chance you don't get what you were aiming and if things go well, we attribute it to luck, God, etc and rarely our competency. Good news is that thoughts are rarely real. As a matter of fact we think all the time, doesn't make the thinking of one being a loser or a winner real, only actions matter, things like: do you have the expertise or at least are you developing one. What you are doing to get the higher salary if what matters.

I THINK!! more

I don't know what a loser looks like but... I do know the brain is wired to think first of all the things that could go wrong, think one is... incompetent the find reasons to support this so you don't feel bad when by chance you don't get what you were aiming and if things go well, we attribute it to luck, God, etc and rarely our competency. Good news is that thoughts are rarely real. As a matter of fact we think all the time, doesn't make the thinking of one being a loser or a winner real, only actions matter, things like: do you have the expertise or at least are you developing one. What you are doing to get the higher salary if what matters.

I THINK!! more