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Career development 1mo
Recently, a woman joined our department, and her desk is next to mine. She’s constantly asking for things - anything from a pencil or an eraser to asking me to buy her groceries when I go out for lunch. It all seems small, but she never gives anything back, and she never pays me back either. I got fed up and stopped responding to her requests, and now she’s telling everyone that I’m cheap.
It’s a nightmare, it’s impossible to work. I’m nervous and angry all the time. What should I do?

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  • Sunaina Bindra

    1mo
    Best answer

    Tell her you’re not her assistant and inform a supervisor

  • Steward Tony Pacheco

    1mo

    She will do to others what she has done to you. Make a formal complaint anonymously so that management can be aware of a possible toxic personality in... the team environment which may be looking for ​a future lawsuit against the company for any reason and also deliberately creating a hostile environment as a control mechanism for her own employment sustainment. Production will be affected if the synergy of your department is compromised. more

  • Richard Bernard Gudoi Gid'Agui

    1mo

    Mind your wprk snd do t tease her just keep silent. She is ghost cqn bring you down. Do t even tell it all to ther wprkmates. She is eqger to reduce... you to nothing. Just ig ore and mind your work. In case she wants relationship she would have told you herself. So dont even make an attempt to love her more

  • GLADECAM ENTERPRISES

    1mo

    My advise would be you just talk to that colligue in a polite way..Piga hesabu all th groceries you bought for her ,muitishe pesa yako in a polite way... akikoso report to your supervisor more

  • Muhammad Adnan

    1mo

    Sounds like harassment! Ignore her, stop discussing with others. Go through HR and request a joint mtg with a supervisor or mediator. Explain the... facts, not hear / say. This should end her behavior. If not, it will at least cause it to be entered in her employee record more

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  • Nam Le Hoang

    1mo

    Oh, my god!

  • Mohammed Yakubu Baba

    1mo

    Clearly explain to her why you stopped. Also let her know her remarks are not welcomed. For all you know, that is the only way she things she can have... some sort of connection with you at the work place. Let her know her actions are inappropriate and she will change if it was not intentional. If she persists afterwards, report to your superior. It is clearly work place harassment.  more

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  • Mamie Berry

    1mo

    Politely inform your colleague that you do not consider buying her groceries a professional task and you prefer to maintain a professional... relationship. If she continues to talk negatively about you to others, inform HR and ask them how you should handle the situation. Make sure you document each conversation with the colleague and HR.  more

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  • Philippe Chateau

    1mo

    Contacter moi en privé

  • Sue A

    1mo

    At my last job I prayed (for good things) for the ones that were giving me a hard time, and it worked!!! Setting boundaries is good too, so as not... to get resentments.  more

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  • T E K Iribom

    1mo

    Tell her what you don't like and insist you will document her deeds to the management. If continue report her to your supervisor. Conflict creation... negate production.
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  • Sheila Milburn

    1mo

    Sounds like harassment! Ignore her, stop discussing with others. Go through HR and request a joint mtg with a supervisor or mediator. Explain the... facts, not hear / say. This should end her behavior. If not, it will at least cause it to be entered in her employee record.
    Lesson: in the future get the person's funds whenever a request is made from anyone. Or say, No. Don't lie, dont give an excuse. Just say No.     more

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  • FRANCIS SSENTONGO

    1mo

    Just ask her for what you expected from her in return of what you did for her

  • Hope Iyawe

    1mo

    Some people are incorrigible, and this kind of attitude/behaviour you have related may well be due to her upbringing. It's her time; she is taught... some moral lessons: anyone who dares to confront you, let them know what has transpired between you two. So that your co-workers would know the type of person they are dealing with. more

  • Gerald Mirembe

    1mo

    And don't be surprised if she alleges "sexual harassment" in her defence - I believe you're a gentleman !

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  • Gerald Mirembe

    1mo

    Lodge a complaint to HR and your supervisor, by email and copy her in, detailing the scenarios (i.e. all the incidences). Indicate that this... harassment (yes, call it harassment) is distressing you, distracting you from work and hurting your well being .  more

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  • Nyabuto Samuel

    1mo

    If you want peace always avoid office politics at all.

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  • Esther Ushie

    1mo

    Just ignore her and her character..you will come off it.

  • Dawam 608

    1mo

    No need for explanation to the people who know you. Let her beg from the ones she gossips to. Keep your peace, but never let anyone overstep

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  • Musa Kimbowa

    1mo

    Propose to her, so that you don't give her things for free of charge

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  • Linda Yao -Money Master Pro

    1mo

    Pencils, erasers, hole punchers, etc., are equipment company should provide. However, for groceries, I would ask her for money ahead of time and stop... carrying extra cash with you. Tell her your credit card is missing and you can't charge it. Provide a tally of the things you have bought so far and be assertive and ask for the money back as you are short this month....
    There are many ways to combat these scum bags.
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