We work at a big company, and there are a few women around 50 who love setting up single coworkers. They’ve already gotten two couples married. Now they’ve clearly decided to set me up too.
They act like it’s no big deal, but it’s getting annoying. People keep hinting at things. When I go into the kitchen, they leave so I’m alone with that girl. They’re always finding reasons for us to do things together.
It’s really frustrating. How can I make them stop? If I want a relationship, I’ll handle it myself.
Thanks for any advice

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  • FEBYAN RONOH

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    Stop letting co workers know your personal life

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  • Sounds like you need to speak HR, concerning sexual harassment.
    Looking into labor board law on your rights
    Bullying, start looking for a better job... for backup. No one should be pressured into dating. You aren't ready to, you are still working on yourself, whatever your reason is , you can stop being placed in uncomfortable situations.  more

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  • Do not prove to them that you are also love blind as they did to the two. Disprove them by focusing on STRICTLY what matters at workplace. Their traps... will only get those blind ones.  more

  • It sounds like they do not have enough work to do.

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  • Avoid telling them talking to them,lock your mouth while working,speak when it is necessary

  • tell them you appreciate their interest, but you have been pursuing someone outside the office and you'd rather not discuss it.

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  • Aunties often have good intentions but ill timed methods. If you'd like to preserve the relationship I'd suggest speaking to the young lady first and... letting her know that you enjoy working with her but you aren't interested beyond a professional relationship. That way she hears it first from you first without "filter". I'd then immediately sit down with the Matchmakers sharing a similar sentiment while also acknowledging your appreciation for their interest and prior success (again if preserving the relationship is a priority). It may be awkward for a bit but hopefully they'll move on. My question is, if you were attracted to the young lady, would you have the same "ick"? We often spend more time with our colleagues than anywhere else so it's easy to see how lines become blurred. That being said once you set that boundary it should be respected. Good luck!  more

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  • You have 2 challenges created by their meddling. I suggest you 1) find out, privately, if the other coworker is working with them or feeling as... awkward as you are. If she feels the same; you can approach them as a united front. If she's part of the problem, the honest discussion should move her to stand down. And minimize her embarrassment.
    2) in either event, you need to politely remind those meddling that your personal life is out of bounds and their actions are against company policy (verify this part 1st). Tread lightly, they created the mess, but you are now caught up in it. Goodluck!
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  • Stop letting co workers know your personal life

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  • Take them through policies, I hope you have such a policy and work with policy
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  • Neglect personal hygiene for a few weeks and people will leave you alone.

  • Have you told them to stop? If you have and they persist then bring it up with HR.