People at work say I’m “difficult” and “toxic.” Why? Because I don’t let others push me around and I stand up for my boundaries.
That’s why I never... get bonuses, and the bosses want me to quit. After all, it's easier to control and manipulate obedient employees.
I’m going to job interviews now, hoping to find a company that values hard work and honesty you got this 💪 more

As an employer, if one person tells me a colleague is toxic I try to find out what transpired between the complainant and the person being complained... about. Sometimes, oil and water do not mix. But when several people have had bad experiences I have to look at what is the common denominator. Setting boundaries sounds like a good thing, but what does that mean? Are you refusing to help colleagues “cause it’s not really my job”? That’s a boundary by it doesn’t make friends and influence people. Your question is framed as though it’s all about them. Perhaps a bit of self reflection as to why “people “ perceive you this way is in order. Perhaps ask a colleague why people have this opinion of you. Be prepared for an answer you may not like. Know as I was told years ago, wherever you go you take yourself with you. It’s in you best interest to find out why you are perceived this way before the next job. more

Never gonna happen yet hard work pays for itself. Your experience nobody can take. What they need professionalism, trust in what you know and can do....  more

Me too, many times.

Where is God in your life? If the problem lies within you, toxicity will follow wherever you go. But remember—you are not a doormat. There are ways to... communicate without stress, without anger, without the need to fight or defend. Speak with wisdom and grace. Trust God, and ask for His guidance. Also grab a copy of Mel Robbins book, "Let Them!" ;0) CC
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Hard work and honesty are great skills yet you either are coachable and teachable or not. If everyone has the same insight just take a step back and... ask yourself if this were your company what would you change or implement to make it better. Then it’s always good to do self evaluation as many things may to you sit well yet to others it can be seen as disrespectful or insubordinance.  more

your ability to work well with others is more important than any other skill. Sometimes it does mean compromise on things. You can decicde on what... things you will and wont. I remember being told one time, do you want to die on every hill? more

Mike Ogolla, does he though?

If multiple people are saying he’s toxic, and his response is to jump ship instead of taking a look at whether or not... he IS actually toxic…then he’s not standing for truth. transparency and integrity. He’s standing for self centered toxicity, which makes all workplaces inefficient and ineffective a essentially dragging the whole team down.  more

when looking for other jobs don't mention this as your strength

Toxic is harsh word, maybe it's how you say it. Standing up for something is very different. Do you curse people out? I am just asking. I work in... Toxic environment . I work with a lady and she does not think she is. She gossip, keep stuff going and she does her work. No one says anything to her. Now she is Toxic.  more

I understand how frustrating it must be to feel undervalued at work, especially when you believe you’re standing up for yourself. Having strong... boundaries and advocating for fairness are important qualities in any workplace. However, it’s also worth considering how others perceive your approach. Some self-reflection is required.
Along the same lines as the first commenter (Heather Hodgson), there’s a difference between being assertive and being seen as difficult. Assertiveness means standing up for yourself while still respecting others, maintaining professional relationships, and fostering a positive work environment. Toxic behavior, on the other hand, often involves negativity, inflexibility, or conflict that affects team dynamics.
It may be helpful to take an honest look at how you communicate and interact with your colleagues. Are your boundaries clearly communicated without aggression? Do your coworkers see you as cooperative and solution-oriented, rather than combative? Sometimes, workplaces can be unfair, but in other cases, a shift in approach can make a big difference.
As you look for new opportunities, consider finding a company that truly values transparency, collaboration, and mutual respect. A healthy work environment should empower employees to be both honest and professional without feeling dismissed or penalized.
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There is nothing wrong with standing up for yourself or adhering to your boundaries- in any aspect of your life- that’s a great quality to have and... you should be applauded for that- but if it’s a pattern for you that you end up in those situations, where co-workers find you to be toxic and bosses want you to quit, the common denominator is you, my friend.
Consider why you’re perceived that way by so many different people in so many different workplaces. Is there a way you can handle yourself differently and still be true to who you are? Because unfortunately the way we are perceived by others is their reality and is not something you can control or change. You can only control how you respond to and interact with others.
Are you an “it’s my way or the highway” type of person? Do you fly off the handle when others disagree with you, try to direct you, or say something you perceive as critical? Consider why you react in those ways. Respecting boundaries is a two way street.  more

Yes always that's the right thing to do. If you don't stand for something you fall for anything 💪🏾

Go go, for you stand for truth, transparency and integrity.