I used to think that when a man has a successful career, his wife would be proud and happy. But the more I work (and earn), the worse things get at home. My wife even said she might leave me if I don’t come home on time and spend more time with her and our child. What should I do? I don’t want to work less because I could lose opportunities.
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  • John Toombs

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    Honestly, You have a simple issue, with what you believe is a complex situation. Men are solution oriented, figure out how to fix it before your wife... does. Here's what your missing. You have to decide when enough success is enough success, how many opportunities are worth your family? That's a choice you have to make. It's clear to me, that your wife is proud of you, she's so proud of you that she's telling you in her actions that you are successful enough for her. Now that you have made her financially happy, she wants you to make her and your child emotionally happy by being in their lives and enjoying the opportunity of family. If you can't do that then here's my final advice, give me your job because no matter how hard I work or try the universe bends to make sure I don't succeed, I have no idea what success feels like. Hope I helped more

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  • Honestly speaking, knack her well well without excuses of tiredness, and keep her updated a little more often about your meetings, workshops,... trainings, almost everything related to your work, be it inside or outside your office, she must be in the know.  more

  • The entire problem is not about spending time with her and your child, its about spending time with her, and that doesn't mean she wants you around... her all the time, but whenever you are getting intimate just do it well and make sure she got the pleasure she needs. Make your bed lively and healthy and all other problems will vanish. more

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  • You should stay at home with the kids. Your wife may have more earning power. Treating her like a pet is a bit old-fashioned and will lead to failure,... as it should. more

  • In honest speaking all both family and work are important to you, but make balance between them so that to avoid inconvenience and be a man with... dignity as well as emotionally happy to family specifically. more

  • In honest speaking all both family and work are important to you, but make balance between them so that to avoid inconvenience and be a man with... dignity as well as emotionally happy to family specifically. more

  • Your wife is very childish.She wants to romantising all the time forgetting that the comfort of her her home is as a result of your hard work.Try to... lose the same job and you will see that she is just a gold digger.Alternatively,try to downgrade your life so that you can be spending shorter periods at work and be getting smaller wages.My man,the same woman will start insulting you for being a low income earner.I think she is just too idle.Find her something to do. more

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  • You’re discovering something important and painful about the human heart. You thought success at work would bring joy and security at home. You... believed that providing and achieving would make your family feel loved. But work can quietly become more than work. It can start to feel like a savior. When that happens, it takes more from you than it gives. Scripture warns that good things like career, provision, and success can become ultimate things. When they do, they demand sacrifices. Often the first to go are the relationships they were meant to serve. Right now, your wife is not just reacting to your schedule. She feels you are choosing something over your family. And in some sense, she may be right. Not because your work is bad, but because real love is spelled TIME. Your family does not just need what your work provides. They need you. more

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  • As a couple see a pastoral counselor or a faith-based therapist. Address this now, not later.

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  • Charlie Kirk had this issue. What he did was sit down with his wife, promise her all day Sunday was his family's day. He not only spent all day with... them, but even turned off his cell phone. It was all about them. You might want to give it a try. If you're not willing to give up your football, then make it Saturday. Just give them one full day a week. If that doesn't work, then she's already decided to leave and is just looking for an excuse.  more

  • Make sure your wife is not idle.She must have a talent. Let her build on it.

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  • I understand both your perspectives. I guess the best thing to do is to sit down with your wife and define what your family wants without... compromising your work/career. more

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  • I understand both your perspectives. I guess the best thing to do is to sit down with your wife and define what your family wants without... compromising your work/career. more

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  • Working hard is good, infact, it is the duty of man to provide for his family. Giving gifts and presents to your wife and members of your family is... perfect, it solidify love and build trust and confidence. However, we men need to know doing all these things is not a cure for emotional void. Couples need to be there for each other. Emotional absence is one of the greatest enemy of relationships. Ladies tend to appreciate the presence of their men in their lives just as they appreciate their spouses commitment, love and caring expressed genuinely through hard work, gifts and mentorship steps exercised in their daily struggles of life. more

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  • Working hard is good, infact, it is the duty of man to provide for his family. Giving gifts and presents to your wife and members of your family is... perfect, it solidify love and build trust and confidence. However, we men need to know doing all these things is not a cure for emotional void. Couples need to be there for each other. Emotional absence is one of the greatest enemy of relationships. Ladies tend to appreciate the presence of their men in their lives just as they appreciate their spouses commitment, love and caring expressed genuinely through hard work, gifts and mentorship steps exercised in their daily struggles of life. more

  • Give her a tight hug when you leave for office and even tighter hug when you return. All problems will be solved

  • I am going to be blant with you. Earning more money and providing materials for your wife doesn't make up for her emotional needs. You are obviously... not available to your family and expect the impossible from her. more

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  • Honestly, You have a simple issue, with what you believe is a complex situation. Men are solution oriented, figure out how to fix it before your wife... does. Here's what your missing. You have to decide when enough success is enough success, how many opportunities are worth your family? That's a choice you have to make. It's clear to me, that your wife is proud of you, she's so proud of you that she's telling you in her actions that you are successful enough for her. Now that you have made her financially happy, she wants you to make her and your child emotionally happy by being in their lives and enjoying the opportunity of family. If you can't do that then here's my final advice, give me your job because no matter how hard I work or try the universe bends to make sure I don't succeed, I have no idea what success feels like. Hope I helped more

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  • I understand both your perspective and your wife’s. We often have to choose between time and money. Perhaps have a conversation with your wife and... the two of your reassess your situation and establish goals for the household together. Perhaps you can live with less material benefit and spend more time. Hopefully, the two of you can establish a balance that works for your family. more

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