I haven’t been working at a small company for long and like to give my coworkers small gifts on holidays. It helps make the workplace friendly. Everyone is happy to get my gifts, but no one gives me anything back. It’s not about the price, even a cheap gift would be fine. It's the thought that matters. But my coworkers don’t seem to want to spend money. I don’t understand, are they just cheap or do they not want to give gifts to me? I think I might stop giving them presents.

  • Mvuselelo B Nzama

    1mo
    Best answer

    What you are doing is truly admirable. It shows that you genuinely care about others. However, it is important to remember that not everyone shares... the same beliefs or way of thinking, and it is not possible to impose your perspective on others.

    Give because it reflects who you are, not because you expect something in return.

    God gives us a gift everyday “life” “breath” but we fail to say thank you to Him but still He gives everyone the same oxygen even those that do evil. He asks us to also do the same.

    Love those that don’t love you back.
    Return bad with good.

    So check your act of giving
    Is it based on the unlimited God or its something that you are doing from your own human heart and for your own glory and praise.

    If it’s from the love of God = unconditional
    If it’s from your own human heart = conditional

    So continue…..
    The world needs more people like you.
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  • A reciprocal gifting culture doesnt exist in the way you want. Youre coping with that reality.
    It's hard when we engage in a behavior that makes us... feel not-valued. You could set that desire aside and think about what benefits you recieve from giving without expectations. Do you enjoy seeing recipients happy with your gift? If thats not enough - Are there other less -grand ways to appreciate them that would set THEM up for success ? Less cost to you, less (unknown?) pressure on them?
    If you want to give AND recieve gifts think about why that is. It seems this is taking space in your mind and something unpleasant is surfacing -agitation? confusion? When that happens I try to step back and hold those emotions tenderly. When we give gracefully to appreciate the recipient it's a beautiful gesture. When we recieve gracefully we shouldnt feel pressure . Your gifts are a kindness you put out there. We dont always get gifts exchanged tit for tat.
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  • My attitude on gifts is simple. I give gifts because it makes me happy and, since I do not expect anything, any gift to me is a pleasant surprise.... Since it is no longer making you happy, you can taper them off and replace with having cookies or candy on your desk. Anybody can come and get it from your desk and will also talk to you. more

  • Since you have been giving, if you try to stop , you will be surprised, they gang against you for not giving out the gifts. So continue giving

  • They may be taking you for granted. Hold off on the gifts and see if anyone notices.

  • Don’t sweat it, we just live in a world where people are used to taking and not giving. Welcome to the real world.

  • Pple happen to think you have enough, I don't know is it that they can give to you that I don't have..not understanding that a gift an offer , a... present is not weight from what others have and what they don't have.a present is more than of pples appreciation, recognition,love someone have to the other.this is my views.my opinions. more

  • Pple happen to think you have enough, I don't know is it that they can give to you that I don't have..not understanding that a gift an offer , a... present is not weight from what others have and what they don't have.a present is more than of pples appreciation, recognition,love someone have to the other.this is my views.my opinions. more

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  • J M

    1mo

    If you have expectations of getting something back it is not a gift. Gifts have a lot of emotional baggage some good and some may not be good. It... may be embarrassing for one but not the other. And not a good fit in the work environment.  more

  • What you are doing is truly admirable. It shows that you genuinely care about others. However, it is important to remember that not everyone shares... the same beliefs or way of thinking, and it is not possible to impose your perspective on others.

    Give because it reflects who you are, not because you expect something in return.

    God gives us a gift everyday “life” “breath” but we fail to say thank you to Him but still He gives everyone the same oxygen even those that do evil. He asks us to also do the same.

    Love those that don’t love you back.
    Return bad with good.

    So check your act of giving
    Is it based on the unlimited God or its something that you are doing from your own human heart and for your own glory and praise.

    If it’s from the love of God = unconditional
    If it’s from your own human heart = conditional

    So continue…..
    The world needs more people like you.
     more