Hi everyone! Can you give me some advice? At our Christmas office party there were different games, and I got paired up with my boss. We had to carry an apple across the whole room together without using our hands. We were fooling around but managed to do it.
Since then, though, I’ve noticed that she’s constantly staying close to me, trying to touch me, and sometimes even leaning against me. I’m shocked! I really don’t want to start anything with her, but I also don’t want to reject her rudely as I can’t risk losing my job.
How can I gently explain to her that there won’t be anything between us. Thank you

  • Ayomide Sanni

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    Focus on your work and stop day dreaming. If she has any feelings for you, time will tell.

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  • We are all busy people and these situations act like team building practices. She could have just had such a good time with you she feels comfortable.... Managers rarely get to get close to team members because of misinterpretations that can develop.

    Make sure you document any inappropriate actions in a journal with dates and times. If what you say is true, then if there are any hostile accusations against you. you have a documented recording of events. You can also make a call once you seriously take a look at the actons involved and determine them to be sexual harassment. Make your call anonymously.
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  • Ignore it because for now there's nothing maybe you took it too far

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  • Hopefully you have a strong human resource department and everyone has signed a code of conduct and ethics. This is because what you are asking for... support online is a serious grievance that can amount to sexual harassment at the work place. Report the matter anonymously through your work place whistle blower mechanisms provided. It is your human right to feel safe, work freely with job security without intimidation at all times. Hopefully this helps.  more

  • Just wear a gold ring the next day on your Engagement finger so she can see it. Also, nicely tell her..."Look, I am flattered that you are showing... interest in me, but I have a committed relationship, and I would be hurting my Partner if I betray her in any way, shape, or Form by being close to you. I will appreciate it if we can keep a respectful distance from each other. Please don't misunderstand me!" she should get the message. If she continues to tempt you into a relationship, and you are uncomfortable, then just find another Job! more

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  • If she has confidence in you, don't betray it. Don't conclude she wants to go to bed with you. Not every relationship with opposite sex ends in bed.... Be principle and allow time to tell. more

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  • "There wont be anything between us" that's being phony against the fear of loosing your job. Your job passion is under test of lifetime choices. Its... like the other way round that she gives you leave to stay with your family and you decline over job. Just be a soft and gentleman to her. If its her touch are irritating you, then you can escape gently by running her party errands: like "i am going to get a wine can i get you one". i did the same trick and later? the response was "you are such a smart man" and i scored the professionalism goal. Thank me later more

  • Don't say or do anything. Sometimes there are no ways of communicating these things. Its only going to head downhill no matter what you do or say.... Best to focus on work. But, you still have to be friendly and respectful. If something does happen dont talk about it. Make sure to get it on video so you have a good defense 💪  more

  • Move out of her way. Casually step aside when she leans or approaches. Hopefully, she'll get the hint. Keep your focus and conversation on work. I... don't know what " fooling around" means in your description but maybe she read more into it. Also, games where you have to get up close and personal w/coworkers do not belong In the work place. Completely inappropriate.  more

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  • It's about to go down 😔
    Sorry for that, you know your value and stand, be firm, be friendly but no beyond boarders, better quit the job and preserve... your dignity. more

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  • Make her feel like a friend a confide in her about a guy you met and really like. Maybe she’ll get the hint.

  • Do your job to the best of your ability and don't encourage any behaviors

  • Please go to HR. If there's further touching, document it meticulously. If at all possible, don't come in close contact outside of necessary job... related contact. more

  • Congratulations you’re about to get engaged

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  • Focus on your work and stop day dreaming. If she has any feelings for you, time will tell.

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  • I agree with Brenda

  • Maybe it is your imagination and maybe you should just put your head down and get your work done. I am sure your family or bills will appreciate you... focusing back on work. more

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  • You are a man (Straight/Bi/Gay) it doesn't matter. Get over it.

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