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 1mo

What to do when job makes you depressed

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Please don't tell me to just leave etc. Job hunting for over a year not landed anything, hence very depressed. (I don't say that lightly either I have been diagnosed with moderate depression by a psychiatrist previously, and things feel worse atm)

I deal with extreme micromanagement and toxic managers who love to blame and pressure you. Bad working procedures, little to no guidance or training, very low salary, days with high workload (done so much unpaid overtime).

I sometimes worry my friends/family will think I'm crazy or exaggerating because they wouldn't believe how bad the working conditions are. Also I imagine 'normal' people with career prospects wouldn't stand for it and simply land another job. A lot of my colleagues also very unhappy, some are immigrants from countries with harsher working conditions

I also have autism but not been given any reasonable adjustments as I'd have to go through one of the toxic managers to ask for this who will likely see it as an unfair advantage and it will make her resent me even more. I really don't have any energy to survive more of her wrath, I try hard to dissociate from my job situation.

I'm constantly tearful from work, struggle to eat 3 basic meals a day due to the work stress. Today I was so overwhelmed made a small mistake but in my defence I had extra workload put on me since the minute I logged on, back to back calls in morning, no lunch or break until 3pm. ASD makes me struggle with heavy workload which involves juggling multiple priorities too but I don't have reasonable adjustments.

I am already dreading work on Monday and daydream of being hit by a bus because at least I'd have time off work. I'm writing this at 03:50 and I've barely noticed it's so late because my head has been so overwhelmed, I can't think of sleep.
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  • Christine Bernat

    1mo

    I hear you!!
    I went through quite challenging mental health challenges in 2016-2019 which affected my physical body as well.
    I was able to release... the hidden emotional causes as I trained to be healer/coach and EFT master practitioner.
    No one teaches us how old hurts from our children hood are still affecting our mental health as adults.
    Keep looking for your solutions.
    If you would like support, let me know
    Christine      more

  • Camille Stephens

    25
    1mo

    First, I would pray and ask God if you believe in God or whatever you believe in that works for you. That the situation changes for your good. He... could remove the person causing the problem or upgrade your position. Never know.  more

  • James Anderson

    Pro
    11
    1mo

    Start your own business. Take a look at franchising. 80% still going after 10 years. DM me.

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  • Bryant Bridgewaters

    4
    1mo

    You can learn how to do trading. I just started and I LOVE it!

    1

  • Djadji Sylla-Samassa

    38
    1mo

    I’ve been in a very similar situation. I worked in an extremely toxic environment; I dreaded going to work, felt depressed, and cried almost every... day. Because it had taken me so long to find that job and I needed to provide for my family, I stayed. But I quietly searched for another opportunity and prayed day and night.

    The experience I gained in that difficult role ultimately helped me secure a similar position that pays double the salary for half the workload. The environment is completely different—people are respectful and kind. I have my own office, no one checks on me unless it’s for evaluation, and I have the flexibility to come and go as long as I do my job. It truly felt like going from hell to heaven.

    If you can’t quit right now, keep searching until you find something better. Stay strong. It took me almost a year to find my new job, but it was absolutely worth it. I love every aspect of it.     more

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  • Donella Richardson-Graham AA, BS, CHW, CPSS

    3
    1mo

    Staying in a job that harms your mental health is not loyalty — it’s self-abandonment.
    Changing direction can look like: Transferring... departments
    Reducing hours temporarily
    Shifting to a role with less social drain
    Planning an exit slowly and safely
    Redefining success on your terms
    And hear this clearly:
    Leaving a job that hurts you is not failure — it’s adaptive intelligence.     more

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