You face a tough dilemma. I would have asked the employer "If I am worthy of a promotion when I tell you I am leaving, why was I not offered it... earlier? The answer will be revealing. I have a philosophy of always telling any supervisor I have had that I would never come to them asking for a raise or a promotion....that it was their responsibility to make sure I was fairly compensated and given the appropriate roles in the company. This puts the pressure on them, and when you feel you are not treated the way you expect, you can easily leave to pursue other opportunities. more

No. You did not damage your reputation. You just showed you should be compensated for the work you did/do. They just don't give out promotions unless... they are warranted. At least that's the way it used to be. Do you job and your work will be recognized. And it is never wrong to toot your own horn. If you don't who else will?  more

You will regret your decision to stay

I'm gonna be honest with you. Leave the job.
Your spirit prompted you to leave, nothing should make you stay. Your love and passion for the Job is... gone, money cannot replace that. Once your passion for a job is gone, your efficiency and productivity is gone, even a raise cannot bring that back because life is more spiritual than physical.
That raise will be the reason for your downfall because you have wasted both time and energy and even the wisdom you would I've used to build yourself elsewhere.


Answer this question honestly, ever since that raise came to you, what "new thing" or extra benefit has it added to you in all sincerity. What has improved or become possible cos of that raise?

Are you more blessed than before or more frustrated than before?

Don't sell your convictions!
Don't sell yourself too!!  more

Honestly

It is an indication of your value ...that your employer gave you a raise. You also could have just simply requested a raise, and then watched where... that would lead, without any pressure approach. or forcing the employer's hand. But it seems that it ended up well, and that your employer was reminded of your work value, and responded in kind. more

Your reputation was good, that is why you were offered a promotion. Sometimes a supervisor wants to give an employee a raise but is not able to get... approval. The threat of losing employee speeds up that approval.
Your question is whether you offended your supervisor. You should be able to have a frank conversation. Working there with this apprehension will not be fun. So clear the air and move on. If there is a next time, clear the air before accepting promotion. more

You made a big mistake,companies dont like to be arm twisted like that rest be assured that they will hire someone else and tell you to train them for... that position the moment they have mastered the in and outs of the job they will frustrate you to death or look for any little reason to fire you. more

No! For sure not.

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