i really want to work in a friendly place...
recently working somewhere filled with lots of toxic people
what can i do to ignore their behaivour
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  • Abas Ebong

    1mo
    Best answer

    You won’t be able to “ignore” toxic behavior completely—that’s the first thing to get clear. What you can do is reduce how much access it has to your... attention, mood, and decisions. That’s a skill, not just willpower.

    Start by separating what is actually happening from your internal reaction. Toxic environments thrive on emotional contagion—people complain, gossip, undermine, and it pulls you in. Your leverage is to stay task-focused. When someone brings negativity, respond briefly and redirect to work:

    “Noted—what’s the next step?”
    “Let’s focus on what we can control here.”

    No long debates, no emotional investment. You’re not there to fix them.

    Second, set quiet boundaries. You don’t need dramatic confrontations. Just reduce exposure:

    Limit time in gossip-heavy spaces (break rooms, group chats).
    Don’t overshare personal info—people in toxic settings often weaponize it.
    Keep conversations professional and short when needed.
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  • R R

    1mo

    Join my independent yet team work from home industry!!! Its NEVER toxic

  • If the toxic behavior is directly related to policy and practices, then it's potentially a form insubordination and harassment. For example, if a... coworker is constantly coming to you and badmouthing your supervisor(s)' decisions, or coworkers' performance, that's creating a toxic environment. You should a.) document and timestamp it, and b.) politely but firmly suggest that they take their grievances directly to HR/management. If it's the higher-ups giving you a problem, that's more difficult. However, still document it, and stay as far out of the office gossip mill as you can. Folks are notorious for throwing you under the bus when their job and reputation is on the line. Gripe to the wrong person, and even if you're right, suddenly you're the problem.

    Keep yourself fully in business mode when on the job site, and afterwards. You don't have to party with them, or be social media friends, or swap recipes, and useless gossip with them at lunch. Be courteous, but stay on task, and within policy. Let the toxic ones think you're distant and unfriendly if they want. That's not your concern. Staying employed with integrity is your concern. Building your skills set for the next great opportunity is your concern.

    Oh...and keep that resume fresh and ready at all times.

    Take good care of yourself!
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  • Ignore toxic coworkers and communicate to other coworkers about the job only. Do not discuss or communicate to any coworkers about your personal life... or issues. Toxic people or coworkers are only interested with a persons' personal issues or problems.  more

  • Focus on working and doing your job. Work is a place to do work and stay focus. Perhaps this will help you think more positive about your fellow... employees. People sometimes focus on the wrong thing at work and everybody’s opinion is their opinion.  more

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  • This is amazing. Professional advice

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  • I don’t think it’s possible to ignore toxic behaviour.. fight or leave. By fight I mean: Try to get their power. Example: I had a toxic boss last... time. One of her power sources were that she didn’t share information that was only shared on her hierarchy level. At some point I joined the team of staff council/staff representatives and I received all infos the same time or earlier than her. That gave me a feeling of being independent.  more

  • You won’t be able to “ignore” toxic behavior completely—that’s the first thing to get clear. What you can do is reduce how much access it has to your... attention, mood, and decisions. That’s a skill, not just willpower.

    Start by separating what is actually happening from your internal reaction. Toxic environments thrive on emotional contagion—people complain, gossip, undermine, and it pulls you in. Your leverage is to stay task-focused. When someone brings negativity, respond briefly and redirect to work:

    “Noted—what’s the next step?”
    “Let’s focus on what we can control here.”

    No long debates, no emotional investment. You’re not there to fix them.

    Second, set quiet boundaries. You don’t need dramatic confrontations. Just reduce exposure:

    Limit time in gossip-heavy spaces (break rooms, group chats).
    Don’t overshare personal info—people in toxic settings often weaponize it.
    Keep conversations professional and short when needed.
     more

  • Toxic, miserable ppl suck but they are at every job. I would suggest exercising, taking ur breaks AND days off. Don’t overcompensate. Meditate and... focus on ur happy life outside of work.  more