My boss doesn’t like me and often picks on me.
But I just found out that her son is in my mom’s class. Now I’m wondering if I should use this somehow or leave the kid out of it.
Maybe I could just drop a hint to my boss. What do you think?

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  • Fredericka Hills

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    Thayer never go low, no matter what other's do. Arrange a meeting with your boss and have example of the action she has taken that are... inappropriate/unfair/demeaning/ unjust, whatever it is. If she continues, document (action and dates) and speak with your union rep or HR. i believe everything is a learning experience, even the negative one. Get something positive from this experience. more

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  • Find a new job or file a complaint against your boss.

  • Tell your mum

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  • The kid has nothing to do with this, sit down with your boss and discuss your issues.

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  • I’d focus on what are the things you appreciate about your boss, even though she’s unkind. She might be going through something in her personal life... taking it out on you at work. Be friendly and kind, you’ll kill her behavior with your kindness. Eventually making a comment about the child might approximate you two. Focus on how you’d like to feel at work and be treated and the situation might start to transform. If it never gets better, you always have the option to find something else.  more

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  • I’d focus on what are the things you appreciate about your boss, even though she’s unkind. She might be going through something in her personal life... taking it out on you at work. Be friendly and kind, you’ll kill her behavior with your kindness. Eventually making a comment about the child might approximate you two. Focus on how you’d like to feel at work and be treated and the situation might start to transform. If it never gets better, you always have the option to find something else.  more

  • Do your work. Write down dates and times of bullying and harassment. Go to HR Paper trail

  • I think this post makes no sense. Who cares if your boss likes you and define “picks on me”. That could mean a million different things. And what... class are you talking about? Why would a class have such age disparity in it?

    If you don’t like your job, quit. It’s that easy.
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  • Youre asking us if we think it's a good idea already lets you know it's a bad idea. You know what to do.

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  • Document all of the times your boss has “picked on you”. Have a meeting with your boss. If you don’t feel comfortable meeting with them alone, ask for... a meeting with them and HR. more

  • Take his crayons away

  • Focus on why your boss “does not like you.” The fact that you would even consider using her son’s presence in your mother’s classroom to somehow... leverage your position or “pay back” indicates that maybe there is something you need to address in yourself. By the way, we all have faults and if poorly fitted temperamentally with others, those can flare. If you like your job, you might consider a calm sit down with your boss for a candid conversation. more

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  • This is a terrible idea. Asking your mother to somehow get the kid involved in your work place issues puts her in a conflict of interest position. ... It's not fair to her, it's not fair to the kid. If the boss finds out about that, that will make matters worse

    I have a suggestion: open communication. Arrange a private meeting. Ask your boss: "I get the impression that you don't like me, and I feel I am getting picked on. I want to know why, and what I can do to stop this". Then see what she says. Take notes. Then send a follow up E-mail with the notes: "Did I capture what was said accurately and completely?"
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  • Leave your kid out of it.

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  • Yeah, sometimes you have to trust your instinct and be bold and think outside the box rather than being "cautious" and a traditional rules follower.

  • No! This is unacceptable to even think about - stop!

  • If you can find something to compliment the child on, I would use that. An example, I don't know if you know it, but my mother is your son's teacher.... She said he did a really great science project last week. Then leave it at that. If they guys is still a jerk, find another job. Life is too short to work for someone who makes your life miserable.
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  • Thayer never go low, no matter what other's do. Arrange a meeting with your boss and have example of the action she has taken that are... inappropriate/unfair/demeaning/ unjust, whatever it is. If she continues, document (action and dates) and speak with your union rep or HR. i believe everything is a learning experience, even the negative one. Get something positive from this experience. more

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