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Experience

  • My girlfriend begged me not to accept a position that required moving abroad. I stayed because I wanted to build a life together. Now she complains that I lack ambition and that her career is moving...

    She asked you to stay back because she wanted your company and presence. Loneliness is a very tough thing to face and she didn't want to face the hurt... of loneliness. When emotions come, logic doesn't work - at that time, she didn't feel that you are losing out on your career goals/ambition. With your presence and support, she has moved up in her career with confidence. As we move up, we forget the support which we used to move forward. We think we did it on our own and hence she now looks down upon you. I feel a little bit of separation is good to feel the value. What you did was not just a mere sacrifice for a relationship - you also helped her grow in her own life and career, which is going beyond a relationship. It's time for her to pay back and help you build your career, even if it means staying away for some time. A relationship is run by Gratefulness and having value for each other - this happens when there is some space in between, alongwith being together & having common goals more

  • My girlfriend begged me not to accept a position that required moving abroad. I stayed because I wanted to build a life together. Now she complains that I lack ambition and that her career is moving...

    She asked you to stay back because she wanted your company and presence. Loneliness is a very tough thing to face and she didn't want to face the hurt... of loneliness. When emotions come, logic doesn't work - at that time, she didn't feel that you are losing out on your career goals/ambition. With your presence and support, she has moved up in her career with confidence. As we move up, we forget the support which we used to move forward. We think we did it on our own and hence she now looks down upon you. I feel a little bit of separation is good to feel the value. What you did was not just a mere sacrifice for a relationship - you also helped her grow in her own life and career, which is going beyond a relationship. It's time for her to pay back and help you build your career, even if it means staying away for some time. A relationship is run by Gratefulness and having value for each other - this happens when there is some space in between, alongwith being together & having common goals more