JnS Harris Jr

I've been covering my brother's rent for eight months after he lost his job. My wife says our own children should come first, and she's tired of sacrificing our savings. I feel torn between being a...

Wow. Just wow. That's not a good thing to suggest.

I've been covering my brother's rent for eight months after he lost his job. My wife says our own children should come first, and she's tired of sacrificing our savings. I feel torn between being a...

You misread what he wrote. Go reread it and then respond.

I've finally been offered the career opportunity I've wanted for years, but my husband expects me to stay home more because his mother is getting older. He says family should come first, but somehow...

Respectfully, she is not your mother. You finally get to do what you want in life and you have to stay home to take care of HIS mother. He is being... selfish to ask you. Take your job and work things out with him as it comes up. I know it sounds bad but from what I can gather, men make decisions like that often and just expect the women to follow along and to be okay with whatever they decide in the name of manhood. Sure, we will complain but in their world, we'll get over it. Think of it like this, it's better to go get the job you want and see if it's really your dream because this is something you need to do for you; or you can be miserable doing a job that you are not going to get paid for and since it's expected of you to take care of his mother, you probably will get a half hearted thanks every now and then. Eventually, the way your marriage sounds, your husband's constant expectation of you to do the giving up of stuff is going to lead to resentment. Take the job and be happy.  more

I turned down a promotion because I didn't want to sacrifice my evenings with my kids. Now someone younger than me has the position I wanted, and I'm starting to regret my decision. Did I choose...

Family over everything. Everytime my Husband and I have prioritized our child over money, God has given him a promotion on his job (and of course, he... is a very hard worker). You will get a chance at another raise that will honor the schedule you have with your children. In six years, my child will be sixteen. I feel like I haven't had enough time. The time feels like it is flying by. Jobs and promotions will always come and go. Although your children will always be your children, you only get their childhood once. There are people wishing that they could stay home or actually have time to spend with their babies and you have that. Don't trade it for anything. You made the right decision. The only thing that makes you feel you didn't is the money aspect of the raise. More money will come. more

I turned down a promotion because I didn't want to sacrifice my evenings with my kids. Now someone younger than me has the position I wanted, and I'm starting to regret my decision. Did I choose...

You are so right. My Husband deployed and when he came back, he was amazed at how tall our child had grown while he was gone. He was sad about not... being able to be there for a long time. more